Asking others to verify

Learn how to request verification from potential matches to build trust before meeting.

Why ask someone to verify?

Confirm authenticity

Ensure the person matches their photos

Catfish prevention

Protect yourself from fake profiles and scams

Build trust

Establish mutual confidence before meeting

Peace of mind

Feel safer about your potential match

How to request verification

1

Open the chat

Go to your conversation with the person you want to request verification from

2

Tap their profile

View their full profile by tapping their name or photo

3

Look for verification status

Check if they already have a blue verification badge

4

Send a polite request

If unverified, ask them kindly: "Would you be comfortable verifying your profile? It would help me feel more confident."

5

Offer to verify yourself

Build mutual trust by offering to verify your profile first

Best practices for requesting verification

Be polite and respectful - Frame it as a safety preference, not an accusation

Explain your reasoning - "I have had bad experiences before, so I prefer verified matches"

Lead by example - Get verified yourself first to show you value transparency

Timing matters - Ask after a few conversations, not immediately

Respect their decision - If they decline, decide if you are comfortable continuing

What if someone refuses to verify?

Not everyone will be comfortable with verification immediately. Here is how to handle it:

Ask why: They may have privacy concerns or be unfamiliar with the feature

Suggest a video call: A FaceTime or WhatsApp video call can serve the same purpose

Look for red flags: If they are defensive or evasive, proceed with caution

Trust your instincts: If something feels off, it is okay to unmatch

Example verification requests

"Hey! I really enjoy our conversations. Would you be open to verifying your profile? It would make me feel more comfortable as we get to know each other. I can verify mine too!"

"I have a personal rule to only meet people who have verified their profiles. Would you mind going through photo verification? It only takes 2 minutes!"

"I noticed you are not verified yet. No pressure, but it would help build trust between us if we both verified our profiles. What do you think?"

Red flags to watch for

Aggressive refusal - Gets defensive or angry when asked
Constant excuses - Always has a reason to delay verification
Rushing to meet - Pushes to meet in person without verification
Asking for money - Requests financial help before verifying

Remember: Asking someone to verify is a reasonable safety request. Anyone who respects your boundaries will understand your concerns.

Safety first: If someone refuses verification and you feel uncomfortable, it is okay to end the conversation and report the profile if you suspect fraudulent activity.